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What I saw inside

One of the lessons during my time at Avagasso was to begin writing my next book and we had to start with two small sections. Size here is relative :) I wrote it for those who needed to know they are already needed.


I have walked alongside my new friends on a path that changed my life. A path that unintentionally led to a new kind of solitude, one that isn’t easy to explain but fortunately, came with the tools to help me live, thrive and belong without the need to explain.

I couldn’t have understood how impactful it is to discover there is a core and at the core sits me in the forms that guide who I was and who I am today. None of these versions have known to feel acceptance, validation or approval by themselves. I can with confidence admit the tools I need are here with me.


Leadership feels like existing in a continuous genuine state in whichever reality life brings.

I’ve been a survivor, and I’ve built a lot of walls, made a lot of compromises, and very rarely thought of myself as someone who deserved love, care, consistency, the list goes on.

I’ve been a survivor who was always happy to please but never “to be pleased”. Not that there was a shortage of great people who have been there for me, but because I just didn’t understand this.


This path has helped me greatly. I can take better care of myself, I can trust dearly, and I can lead from my core and our values. I now know, I need myself and we’ve got one hell of a ride ahead.

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