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More than one or plus one



I've spent an unhealthy amount of time thinking about how to share this so I'm literally sharing the drafts of my thought process to respect the garden-blog concept 😁

I got the opportunity to share this at Xebia's annual TED-style knowledge exchange and the event was incredible as always. I'm not sure the recording will go online but this page holds the original idea and the final edit of the poem. 


This talk explored belief systems, focusing on one of the most challenging obstacles we face: the struggle to accept grief, help and continue living fully. The closer the loss, the bigger the smack. I don't know if that ever changes but I think it's worth being grateful for overcoming those moments sometimes.

It takes a village: (A love Letter to communities)

- Lessons:

  • Noobing through everything in life is how a lot of us are doing and for anyone who had the privilege to learn how to live, what a beauty!
  • What does a toy car, a tea flask and a girlfriend have in common? (the queen dropped this one on me)
  • I used to think that lucky is the one who grew up with both parents, a front seat to witness and get programmed:
    • This is love : 💓
    • This is patience: ✋
    • And this, this right here is bad: 👻
  • I remember the toys (shoe cones & vw beetle)
  • I remember breaking the tea flask
  • I remember discovering girls, not that they didn't exist before
  • I remember preparing to have the talk
  • But then .... (drop the loss to close the story)
  • So I continued living life thinking there was a missing piece and grief sat on it
  • That became the ruling limited belief 
  • So I wrote this poem with gratitude in overcoming that belief and recognizing everyone it took



More than One or Plus One.


The village thrives beyond just thought or feeling's spark,

It's not just what you know, but the lessons in the dark.

Together we have journeyed, hand in hand, side by side,

In unity we flourish, in each other we confide.


More than one or plus one.


Where hearts unite, a tale begins to weave,

Let's seem the love that circles us, believe,

In bonds we find our strength, a shared embrace,

For in this world, need each other's grace.

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